The situation often becomes intolerable through relentless, negative, daily interactions that might seem small on their own but which build up. It may be that nothing you have tried to deal with it has worked or only seems to make it worse. Adults think they should be able to deal with workplace bullies but this
assumes you are dealing with reasonable thinking or behaviour, which is not the case.
Also, if this person holds power over you then fear of losing your job,
your income and your career can mean you are dealing with behaviour towards you that
is taking an increasing toll on your ability to deal with anything at work. You
are afraid of being blamed or having it dismissed and minimised. In addition,
most bullies are serial bullies and have experience at this, and at making it
look in public like this just isn’t happening, or even deflecting blame on you.
Workplace bullying is not schoolyard bullying. Competent people with good
work relationships, are as at risk of being bullied as anyone else. Potential whistleblowers are most at risk of being bullied.
People who experience bullying can develop symptoms
with memory and concentration, hypervigilance, even sleep disturbances,
anxiety and depression and other post traumatic stress symptoms.
Therapy can help
you start to understand and manage these symptoms so you are better
resourced to deal with the work situation instead of feeling increasingly overwhelmed. Therapy can also help you better understand the dynamics of your workplace and your options. This in turn can help you make your own decision about what steps to
The Therapists Blog and some of the self-reflection exercises as well as the Resources and Links listed below can also help you become aware of and start understanding what is happening to you and how to start to take care of yourself in the situation.