Links

I have chosen a few important links and books as a starting point for each issue. Some books were originally published some time ago, but I have started with them simply because they are classics and nothing has replaced them. Also you will find some books listed under a number of issues, as they are generally useful across these issues.

General Crisis and Helplines (NZ)

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 or (09) 5222 999 within Auckland
Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0800 543 354
Healthline – 0800 611 116
Samaritans – 0800 726 666
Chinese Lifeline – 0800 888 880 (for people who speak Mandarin or Cantonese)

For Specific Issues (NZ)

Alcohol and Drug Helpline – 0800 787 797
Alcoholics Anonymous - 0800 229 6757
Are You OK – 0800 456 450 family violence helpline
Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 (to talk to a trained counsellor)
Gambling Helpline – 0800 654 655
OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463 (OUTLINE) sexuality and gender identity helpline
Parent Help – 0800 568 856
Safe to Talk Helpline – 0800 044 334 (for support after any experience of sexual harm)
Shakti Crisis Line – 0800 742 584 (for migrant or refugee women living with family violence
Shine – 0508 744 633 confidential domestic abuse helpline
Women's Refuge Crisisline – 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE) (for women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family)
Youthline – 0800 942 8787, or email whatsup@barnardos.org.nz

If you are not in crisis, but feel you would like some more information, you can also access information on symptoms and resources on the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand website.

Anxiety

The Reality Slap. By Russ Harris. Learn how to cope effectively when life hurts or causes anxiety. You can also download an MP3 of the exercises in the book, which can very useful for developing self-compassion and learning to address anxiety.
The Dose Effect. . By TJ Powers. This books focuses on the four neurotranmitters that impact our mood, motivation etc. Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphin levels can be impacted by anxiety, stress and depression. The book offers straightfoward explanations and evidence, and evidence-based behaviour changes and small habits that can have a positive impact on your levels of neurotransmitters and overall wellbeing.
Self-compassion : the proven power of being kind to yourself By Kristin Neff.
And also her website.
Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. By John Kabat-Zinn, M.D. The heart of the book is based on Kabat-Zinn’s renowned mindfulness-based stress reduction program at the University at Massachusetts Medical Center. Anything by this author is worth reading. A deep understanding of the causes of anxiety and depression.
Also WATCH video clip of Dr. Kabat-Zinn.
Your Inner Child of the Past. By Hugh Missildine. How patterns of responding can be established in childhood, and how to support yourself to change them.

Creativity Processes including blocks

The Artist’s Development Kit. A great tool for thinking about and planning your development as any kind of artist/creative.
The Creative Whack Pack By Roger Von Oech. A very well-known set of 64 cards, “it will "whack" you out of habitual thought patterns and allow you to look at what you're doing in a fresh way.” This also comes as an app for your mobile phone.
Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery. By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. The author/psychologist uses his now well-known notion of ‘flow’ (fully immersed in a feeling of energised focus) to explore the creative process through interviews with creatives in many fields from scientists to artists. Another classic.
Flow the psychology of optimal experience. By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Audio CD. Great summary of some of his main ideas and what enables people to work in flow.
The Creative Habit: Learn It And Use It For Life. By Twyla Tharp. According to Twyla Tharp, creativity is something that must be worked at but something that is within reach for all of us. Tharp teaches how to cultivate the habit of creativity, using more than 30 simple exercises.
The Artist’s Way. By Julia Cameron. A 12 chapter, 12 week programme to recover from creative blocks and all that stands in the way of you developing your talents, whatever they may be.
Manage your Day-to-Day: Build your routine, Find your focus and Sharpen your creative mind. Edited by Jocelyn K. Glei. A series of short, practical essays by creatives and consultants on creativity on how to manage the day to day practicalities of a creative life.

Depression

Depression: The way out of your prison. By Dorothy Rowe. Another expert in her field, and a classic and helpful book for understanding depression through a psychodynamic approach.
The Dose Effect. . By TJ Powers. This books focuses on the four neurotranmitters that impact our mood, motivation etc. This includes serotonin and dopamine, which are at low levels in those suffering from depression. It offers straightfoward explanations and evidence, and evidence-based behaviour changes and small habits that can have a positive impact on your levels of neurotransmitters and overall wellbeing.
The Happiness Trap: How to stop struggling and start living. By Russ Harris. The book covers in detail how to use mindfulness skills, values, and effective action to enhance health, vitality, and life satisfaction.
A mindful way through Depression: Freeing Youself from Chronic Unhappiness. (Including Mindfulness CD). By Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn. Jon Kabat Zin is one the foremost experts in his field, and this is a useful, accessible discussion of depression and how to address it through mindfulness and increased awareness to interrupt the spiral of self doubt and negative thinking, rather than trying to think yourself out of it.
Small Steps Free online tools to lift your mood. Mentemia is co-founded by Sir John Kirwan, providing practical tips and techniques to help you manage stress, build resilience and feel happier day to day.

Grief & loss

Good Grief. By Granger E. Westburg. Small, very straightforward book on the basic stages of grief.
On Grief and Grieving. By Elisabeth Kubler Ross. World-renowned expert talks about grief and grieving and the stages of grief, full of personal anecdotes and warmth and understanding.
Unattended Sorrow: Recovering from Loss and Reviving the Heart. By Stephen Levine. An exploration of grief and loss. Levine addresses the grief from fresh loss but also attends to the pain and troubles caused by the unresolved anguish, sadness and delayed stress than can accumulate over a lifetime. Wise, compassionate advice from a renowned grief counsellor to help heal emotional wounds that prevent us from leading fulfilling lives.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross Foundation. With resources and links in particular regarding the loss of a loved one.

Life Transitions & Growth

Simplify Structure Succeed. By Shannah Kennedy. Assessing your values and what's important to you, and how to shape a life that reflects those values. Any time of change is a time to reassess your life's direction.The author rebuilt her own life 'brick by brick' after suffering from chronic fatigue and now works with elite athletes, business people etc. Lots of insights about how to increase strength and resilience through focus and self-care.
The Reality Slap. By Russ Harris. Learn how to cope effectively when life hurts or causes anxiety. You can also download an MP3 of the exercises in the book, which can very useful for developing self-compassion and learning to address anxiety, stress and change.
Full Catastrophe Living. By Jon Kabat-Zin. Another book looking at the full catastrophe that a full life is, and how to build resilience and cope with stress and change.

Relationship issues

Attachment By Amir Levine, M.D and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. This book guides you to understand what your attachment style might be and how to work with this to build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Platonic:How the Science of Attachment Can Help You. By Dr. Marisa G. Franco. While this is an engaging guide to how attachment styles impact making and maintaining friendships, it's still a useful way to understand how you navigate all your relationships.

Stress & Burnout

Burnout the secret to solving the stress cycle. By Emily & Amelia Nagoski. This book is about managing stress and its impact on your body, and how to interrupt and recover, especially for women. It’s very accessible and straightforward, with excellent layperson descriptions of what stress and overwhelm do to us. They also have a TED talk.
The Dose Effect. . By TJ Powers. This books focuses on the four neurotranmitters that impact our mood, motivation etc: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. It offers straightfoward explanations and evidence, and evidence-based behaviour changes and small habits that can have a positive impact on your levels of neurotransmitters, on lowering stress and burnout, and on overall wellbeing.
Self-compassion : the proven power of being kind to yourselfBy Kristin Neff. Self compassion is an essential component of resilience. Self compassion involves protecting ourselves and also motivating ourselves towards action. Being protective and supportive of ourselves builds emotional resilience to face the difficulties in life. We are better able to deal with stressful situations. This is how to build resilience.
The Reality Slap. By Russ Harris. Learn how to cope effectively when life hurts or causes anxiety. You can also download an MP3 of the exercises in the book, very useful for developing self-compassion and learning to address anxiety and lower stress levels.
Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. By John Kabat-Zinn, M.D. The heart of the book is based on Kabat-Zinn’s renowned mindfulness-based stress reduction program at the University at Massachusetts Medical Center.
Note: Any books by this person looking at mindfulness, offering mindfulness meditations and ways of understanding mindfulness are useful.

Trauma, Abuse & Post traumatic Stress

Healing Trauma. By Dr. Peter Levine. Physician and trauma expert explains how trauma lives on in the body and some ways of understanding this with many straightforward exercises to aid recovery. Any of Peter Levine's books on trauma recovery are useful.
Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma. A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists. By Dr Janina Fisher. Written for clients this offers simple explanations to make sense of confusing feelings and physical reactions, the impact on the body of trauma and the constant reaction of the body to triggers. It also offers step-by-step strategies that can be used on your own or with a therapist for recovery.
The body keeps the score. By Bessel van der Kolk. The second half of the book is an easier read and takes a practical look at a rounded recovery that includes but is not limited to therapy. The first half of the book looks at the physiological impact of trauma: what happens to bodies when a person is traumatised and the physical reactions as disconnected memories.
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. By Pat Ogden and Dr Janina Fisher. A book written for clients and their therapists. The impact of trauma lives on in the responses of the body, and this type of very effective therapy, deals with the ongoing impact of trauma in daily felt experience and how to work towards recovery and relief.
Trauma and Recovery. By Judith Herman. A classic and essential book that looks at the roots of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and the Stages of Recovery. Written more for therapists, survivors may find it of use also.

Workplace bullying & Other Workplace Issues

The Bully at Work. By G Namie and R Namie. Straightforward, comprehensive easy-to-follow book covering many aspects of being bullied at work and what you can do about it. .
Workplace Bullying By Andrea Needham. An exploration of workplace bullying, looking at targets, bullies, and possible workplace solutions.
Stalking the Soul. By Marie-France Hirigoyen. Excellent book about the impact of emotional abuse both in the home and at work, and what you can do about it.
Why is it always about you. By Sandy Hotchkiss. An exploration for the layperson of narcissistic personalities, the type of charismatic person who can be found to be a serial bully in the workplace. Includes strategies for protecting yourself from such people in the workplace.
Simplify Structure Succeed. By Shannah Kennedy. Assessing your values and what's important to you, and how to shape a life that reflects those values. Any time of change is a time to reassess your life's direction.The author rebuilt her own life 'brick by brick' after suffering from chronic fatigue and now works with elite athletes, business people etc. Lots of insights about how to increase strength and resilience through focus and self-care.
Manage your Day-to-Day: Build your routine, Find your focus and Sharpen your creative mind. Edited by Jocelyn K. Glei. A series of short, practical essays by creatives and consultants on creativity on how to manage the day to day practicalities of a creative life, which applies to managing worklife in general.
Flow the psychology of optimal experience. By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Audio CD. Great summary of some of his main ideas and what enables people to work in flow.
Full Catastrophe Living. By Jon Kabat-Zin. Another book looking at the ups and downs that a full life is, and how to build resilience and cope with stress and change.